The Diving Bell and the Butterfly

The Diving Bell and the ButterflyThis tragic memoir is not for the faint of heart. Journalist Jean-Dominique Bauby tells a poignant story of his life before and after a massive stroke. I could not believe how it was written! Blinking 200,000 times over 10 months while the transcriber repeatedly recited the French alphabet. Can you imagine?

“The memory of that event has only just come back to me, now doubly painful: regret for a vanished past and, above all, remorse for lost opportunities. Mithra-Grandchamp is the women we were unable to love, the chances we failed to seize, the moments of happiness we allowed to drift away. Today it seems to me that my whole life was nothing but a string of those small near misses: a race whose result we know beforehand but in which we fail to bet on the winner.”

This sounds like a common regret of people on their deathbeds. Nothing haunts you like the things you could’ve said or done. While I’m all for seizing the moment, this quote reminds of what Morrie from Tuesdays with Morrie said: forgive yourself. Don’t beat yourself up for chances you’ve missed or things you could’ve been. At the end of the day, make peace with others and forgive yourself too.

“Today is Father’s Day. Until my stroke, we had felt no need to fit this made-up holiday into our emotional calendar. But today we spend the whole of the symbolic day together, affirming that even a rough sketch, a shadow, a tiny fragment of a dad is still a dad.”

I love this quote. I used to tell people that I’m not a fan of all the made-up holidays, that it just a commercial tool. Sounds a bit cynical, doesn’t it? Now I see these them as reminders of the important people and things we have in our lives. Let it be Mother’s Day, Valentine’s Day, or National Chocolate Day. No need to complain; rise and celebrate woohoo! Continue reading

My First Post!

I’ve been meaning to start a blog for a while, but I’ve been putting it off until I have “more time.” After studying abroad in England for a semester, I came back to Berkeley this January and dived right into my last semester in college. Accompanied with the excitement as well as uncertainty about the future, the graduation season has been all kinds of crazy. But I’ve come to realize that I’m never going to be “not busy.” I’m traveling right after graduation, and will start working full-time shortly after. So even though graduation is a week away, I decided that there’s no better time to start than now.

I often have waves of thoughts after finishing reading a good book or watching a talk. But these thoughts sometimes slip away as time passes. So I will write down in this blog my feelings and favorite quotes when they are still fresh in my mind. It’ll also be great to see what other bloggers are reading and watching! I will start with a few of my favorite books, and continue with new books as I expand my reading list.

This will also be where I keep track of the places I visit and new cool things I discover. Growth is an ongoing process and doesn’t stop once you hit adulthood. I’m hoping to be able to record my footsteps along the way by keeping a blog.

I’m excited to share my ideas with and meet my fellow bloggers! I’ve always had a feeling that the blogging circle is a whole new world; I’m stoked to become a part of it!